It is good to help kids see the good side of getting things wrong because humans make mistakes all the time and the key lesson is how we can be more learning‐focused after discovering a mistake and learn from the bad decisions we make.
Historically, many educators have created conditions for learning that do not encourage errors and parents have followed suit, for example, you consistently discipline a child over a course work pushing them to eventually remember the answer.
Time and experience can be excellent teachers when you actually learn a lesson from the poor decisions you make, your way of living, which likely comes from suffering, agony and the ordeals we are afflicted by. You can only learn from a mistake after you admit you’ve made it and as soon as you start blaming other people or the universe, you distance yourself from any possible lesson but if you courageously stand up to your mistake and take responsibility the possibilities for learning will move towards you.
Meanwhile, we are taught in school, in our families, or at work to feel guilty about failure and to do whatever we can to avoid mistakes but what is missing in many people’s beliefs about success is the fact that the more challenging the goal, the more frequent and difficult setbacks will be and the larger your ambitions, the more dependent you will be on your ability to overcome and learn from your mistakes.
Parents have a greater factor to contribute in the lives of their kids as they help guild kids to learn from mistake, they need to acknowledge that you don’t expect your children to be perfect so you let them know your love is unconditional, regardless of their mistakes by helping them focus on the solution. Provide examples of your own mistakes, the consequences, and how you learned from them and avoid pointing out their past mistakes instead; focus on the one at hand. Praise them for their ability to admit their mistakes and help them look at the good side of getting things wrong.
But for many reasons admitting mistakes is difficult. Whether it involves homework, developing friendships, or playing soccer, learning is enriched through error and making mistakes is part of how kids are challenged to learn to do things differently because it motivates them to try new approaches.
Also, praising children for their intelligence can actually make them less likely to persist in the face of challenge and the students who had been praised for their effort worked very hard, even though they made a lot of mistakes. The kids praised for being smart became discouraged and saw their mistakes as a sign of failure, intelligence testing for the kids praised for their effort increased by 30% while the kids praised for their intelligence dropped by 20% and being too quick with praise can be as detrimental as correcting homework mistakes that would have provided opportunities for learning.
In order the learn from mistakes you have to put yourself in situations where you can make interesting mistakes, having the self-confidence to admit it and be courageous about making changes
Blaming ourselves, or blaming others, does not encourage us. In fact, it is anti‐learning, if we, or our department, or our organization has made a mistake then we might as well get what we can out of it – the learning. Gaining learning from our mistakes takes us away from a culture of cover ups and denial.
Article by Blessing Bassey